How To Attract And Date Older Women

How To Attract And Date Older Women

There is just something about being able to attract and seduce older women that just seems like so much fun to most men.

The key to being successful at attracting older women (as a younger man) is presenting yourself to her as something different that she isn’t used to experiencing. 

Secretly, most older women are flattered when younger men find them attractive, because generally as women age, their looks begin to deterioate and decline and thus as a woman ages she generally attracts less and less attention from her male counterparts.

For most men, the exact opposite thing occurs. Generally as a man ages, his money, his social status, his experience and social proof all increase as he ages. In other words, as a man ages he becomes much more attractive. For a woman, as she ages she (usually) becomes less attractive.
There is a saying “Women age like milk while men age like fine wine”. Well, that saying is true. But how exactly does all of this relate to your abilities to attract and seduce older women?

Come Across As a Younger Man Who Is Much More Mature For His Age
In addition to you creating a very sexual vibe when talking to older women, you must ALSO at the same time present yourself as a younger man who is much more mature for his age.
The truth is that although older women would like to experience a lot more fun and excitement in their life, they do NOT want to have to babysit any young kids (or be reminded of it). This is why it is so important to come across as a much more mature man when you are younger.

How To Attract And Date Older Women

Fulfill her fantasy
Older women embrace the thought of being “a cougar”.  Getting that kind of attention from a younger guy is an empowering feeling that can make a woman feel sexy.  Just by approaching with the intention of charming her you’re giving her ego a nice little boost and making her feel good.

Not only that, but it’s very likely that at some point she’s fantasized about being with a younger guy.   Part of her will be curious to see if you can be that guy who fulfills this sexual fantasy for her.
This just scratches the surface of some of the mindsets and techniques a guy can use in order to attract women.
How To Attract And Date Older Women

How to Present Yourself as a Very Passionate and Sexy Lover
As a younger man, one thing that you can offer older women (that an older man usually can’t) is lot’s of fun and excitement. Women are simply unable to experience this same type of fun with men who are much more older than you.
In fact, this is one of the big advantages that you have as a younger man that older man don’t.
  • Older women will try to date YOU just for the sex, fun, and excitement.
  • Older women will try to date OLDER MEN just for their money, for security reasons, or when they are simply trying to settle down and start a family.
As a younger man, most older women will (correctly) assume that you don’t have a whole lot of money. But one thing that you CAN help older women out with is sex. Lot’s and lot’s of fun and highly passionate sex. 

How to avoid being too playful
One of the reasons women prefer older guys is that as people age, we get a better idea of who we are and what we want.  Not only is that attractive for women, but older women are especially interested in that kind of guy because they’re in the same boat.  Older women know what they want and are not looking to play games.
So while that youthful energy can be refreshing, you’ve got to combine it with a strong sense of confidence and purpose.  Just by being younger she probably thinks you don’t really know what you want or what you’re doing.  You need to show her right away that you’re not playing games and are a serious sexual option for her.  That kind of self-confidence can be even more attractive when coming from such a young guy.
One of the best ways to show this is through eye contact.  Strong, steady eye contact is the easiest and most effective way to show confidence and that you know what you’re doing.  You can ramp up the intensity and sexual tension by entertaining thoughts of the two of you getting physical while maintaining eye contact.  This will help you project a sexual vibe and she’ll know to take you seriously.

For these reasons, whenever you approach an older woman (as a younger man) and she is very receptive to you and is showing you heavy signs of interest, you are best off moving fast and escalating to sex very quickly.

Your job (as a younger man) is to make older women feel like they are young again. Your job is to make them feel wanted and highly sought after just like they were when they was younger.

How do you present yourself as a passionate and sexy lover (when you’re a younger man)?

When you approach older women, as soon as you begin talking to her, be sure to make use of lot’s and lot’s of touching. Look her directly in her eyes while touching her to create a very sexual vibe. Talk more slowly (more slower than when you’d talk to a younger woman).

Your job is to approach older women and present yourself as a (younger) man who is ONLY after sex. You’re not looking for a relationship, you’re not trying to make any female friends, you’re ONLY out to get sex from an attractive older woman.

 Some keys to coming across as a much more mature younger man are:

    Having a good sense of fashion and dressing better
    Having powerful eye contact and a powerful sexy walk
    Learning how to be powerful and offer lots of value to the women around you

When you dress well, you instantly stand out from 95% of the men. Most guys don’t pay ANY attention at all to their appearance and the way that they look. As a younger man who dresses very stylish, you communicate to older women that you have lot’s of potential and are going places in life.

Only successful (or soon to be successful) men pay attention to their image and body langauge. Learn how to dress well and you’ll come across and appear much more mature for your age.

Having powerful eye contact is another thing that you can do to separate yourself from other men and stand out. Most men have terrible confidence and are unable to look the attractive women that they meet in the eye. Likewise most men walk with terrible posture that is very unattractive. By you focusing on and improving these fundamentals, you again, come across as a man much more mature for your age.
Learn How to Persist (and Read Her Body Language) 

Older women generally take much more time and effort to get into bed. In fact, it usually takes much more comfort building in order for you to get an older woman’s phone number.

That’s because older women will sometimes say “No” when they really want to say “Yes”. Why do older women send these mixed signals? Because many older women don’t want to come across as too “easy to get”.

Many older women don’t want to appear as naughty women who are out seeking pleasure and adventure. But as I have already talked about “All women are sluts who are waiting for you to bring out their naughty side”. How do you persist in a way that is attractive and how do you even know if it’s worth persisting in the first place?

Read her body language. If her words is saying “No” but her body is saying “Yes” then it’s worth persisting.
Here’s how you can tell:
  • If you’re telling a girl that you’re attracted to her and interested in spending some alone time with her, and when she says “No” to your idea, she stands there and keeps on talking to you.
  • You’re having a conversating with a girl and you begin physically escalating with her and she tells you that she isn’t comfortable with you moving this fast, but… she doesn’t get up to leave or walk away. 

The secret is to listen to women’s “actions” and NOT their “words”.
When a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, but she keeps on talking to you and doesn’t walk away, that is when you should persist and keep on trying.

So many older women WILL try giving you some early resistance, but it’s up to YOU to correctly read her body language and determine if it’s worth persisting.
But there is still ONE more problem that you may run into when you’re trying to attract and date older women as a younger man…

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